The foolish blame love, without understanding the cause of pain; without knowing its conflict there is no transcending anguish. Without becoming aware of the source of conflict, craving, love brings pain. It is craving, not love, that creates dependence and all the sorrowful issues that arise out of it. it is craving in relationship that gives rise to uncertainty, not love; and this uncertainty breeds possessiveness, jealousy, fear. In this possessiveness, in this dependence, there is a false sense of unity which sustains and nourishes the temporary feeling of well being; but it is not love, for in it there is inward fear and suspicion. This outward stimulation of seeming oneness is parasitical, the living of the one on the other; it is not love for inwardly there is emptiness, loneliness and the need for dependence. Dependence breeds fear, not love. Without understanding craving is there not domination, oppression, taking the form of love? In relationship with the one or with the many, such love of power and dominance, with its submissiveness and acceptance, brings conflict, antagonism and sorrow. Having the seed of violence within oneself how can there be love? Having the seed of contradiction and uncertainty within oneself how can there be love? Love is beyond and above all these; it transcends sensuousness. Love is in itself eternal not dependent, not a result. In it there is mercy and generosity, forgiveness and compassion. With love, humility and gentleness come into being; without love they have no existence.
~ J. Krishnamurti, Ojai public talk, 18 June 1944
Jñānāgni
The Fire of Wisdom
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Such wise words, that make so much sense!
I love your new site!
Namaste, peace and honour to you.
Cyrus
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Dearest Srini,
So often we are caught into the complications of being in a relationship without knowing the true meaning of this blessed word called LOVE 
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An eye opener for all of us who at one point or other have brought so much negativity around all our relationships.
Such a thought provoking post!! I loved every word of it
Amazing post srini
Hope you are doing fine dear one.
Sending you lots of love and goodwishes
God Bless you always.
“An eye opener for all of us who at one point or other have brought so much negativity around all our relationships.” — definitely an eye opener for me
. I’ve had this knack of spoiling good relationships due to my possessive attitude. That’s why this bit of thought from Krishnamurti touched me and I posted it here.
Thank you dear Krishna, I am doing well, hope you are doing well too. My best wishes to you. Blessed Be.
Thank you so much for sharing the invaluable speach…..!!! Thought provoking !!! thanks a lottt..!
Kesari, thanks for your appreciation. Please do visit this site often