How to get rid of such negative emotions as hatred, jealousy, anger, etc.? We may be intellectually convinced that that these negative emotions are harmful to ourselves and everyone else, but we sometimes find that these negativities lurking around in our own minds. How do we get rid of these negativities?
Well, here’s a suggestion from God himself!
O noble soul, open thy divine sight and regard and honour all beings as myself. Wise is he who looks with an equal eye upon all beings, seeing the one indwelling God in the hearts of all. He who meditates on my divine nature as present in every man becomes free from rivalry, from jealousy, from hatred, and from the consciousness of ego.
— Srimad Bhagavatam: The Wisdom of God
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Translated by Swami Prabhavananda. p. 303
Indeed, we all come from the same Source, we all ultimately go back to the same Source, and it’s the same Source or God who lives in the hearts of all beings and expresses Himself (or Herself or Itself) variously. The expressions themselves may be beautiful or distorted, but they keep changing, they are not fixed or eternal. God, the indweller, outlives everything else, and He alone is the one eternal existence. When I recognize that the same God who lives and works through me lives in and works through the other person too, there is no question of hatred or jealousy in me. In fact, the other person is just another expression of myself, he/she is a mirror reflecting an aspect of myself and helps me discover myself. Only when we forget the oneness of existence and give too much importance to the differences, that’s when these negative emotions raise their head.
What happens when somebody else hates you and attacks you? When somebody attacks you, it’s reasonable for you to defend yourself, it’s perfectly okay to defend yourself. But even then, remembering the oneness of existence and acknowledging that the other person is the same as you in the core will prevent you from introducing further hatred. Further hatred on your part only escalates the problem, whereas when you look at the problem objectively, it always helps bring the situation under control and you can even help the other person overcome his hatred. This attitude has always worked for me. When I find myself having some problem with somebody, I internally acknowledge that we are both same in the core, it’s the same God who expresses himself through both of us differently. When I do this, the feeling of hatred immediately dies down even though the difference of opinion may persist for some time. Just that we both are looking at the same thing from different perspectives, the glasses might be of different colours, but it’s the same eye that looks through the different glasses. These differences are temporary, the clouds of misunderstanding has to pass, however dark they may be, however hopelessly overcast the conditions are, the clouds will disperse sooner or later, and suddenly, we find that the sun of understanding has always been shining resplendently. In fact, when you look at it from the perspective of the sun, the clouds have almost no existence at all!
Let me leave with you with a quote from Swami Vivekananda, who puts it in his own characteristically strong manner:
In one word, the ideal of Vedanta is to know man as he really is, and this is its message, that if you cannot worship your brother man, the manifested God, how can you worship a God who is unmanifested?
Dearest Srini,
Please keep up this good work, looking forward to every post of yours 
Excellent post!!! I loved every word of what you have expressed and i know that if each one of us have this basic understanding of an existence of a God in all the souls around us, the differences and the judgemental approach along with our negative emotions would be completely eliminated. I thouroughly enjoyed reading this very insightful post Srini:)
Thanks a tonne for sharing this with all of us, a briliiant eye-opener indeed!Loved all the quotes too
Great going buddy
God Bless you always.Sending you lots of love and hugs!
Dear Krishna, thanks for the comment and the words of encouragement
God bless you.
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I know the method for overcoming jealousy that your love for ideals must be great .means it your ideals fill your heart so much that there will be no space left for any other frivolous thing.
please help me.can you give me some advise? im not a friendly person. my classmates dont like me according to them im weired coz i dont do the things wich they do such as drinking,having sex with their boy friends.maybe they find me boring…they tease me they make me feel that im not belong to them becoz of that i keep grudges in me.and when we have our group activity in school they ask me to do something as if they are the boss. i can feel they dont like me please give me an advise
edz, don’t worry, you are not boring and you are not alone. Even I don’t drink and I don’t have sex, that doesn’t make me boring. In fact keeping away from drinks and things like that only makes me a happy person. And there are many many such people in the world.
You probably have good reasons for being the way you are. And I’m glad for you that inspite of being surrounded by weird people you persist to be the nice person you are, not many people can stand such peer pressure. It happens that at times we get into a group that’s not suitable for us. I know it’s difficult. Just be patient, make the most out of the situation and things will surely be alright in time. We all go through such experiences in life so that we come out of it a stronger person. God Bless You.
ya i think it could help me overcome myself,,i suffer it for a long time i hope that this can partly help myselp to overcome. thanx a lot of this,,,
Hi Srini,
Nice post.
I guess my views will also add up to your views.
“When you are in love , you will be inside everything , there is ONE. Whereas when you are in hatred , you and others are been separated and the duality creates war”
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Satish
Thanks for sharing your views Satish, you put that wonderfully!
When will humans learn to transcend the limitations of self and ego, to join to others in mutual reverence, compassion and love? We are so alone because we are so separated. We exist as disjointed islands of consciousness in a universe that is fundamentally ordered and whole. We are unwhole within ourselves. Hence war, hatred, enmity and conflict.
True. But at least we are starting to recognize that we are so separated. And we are starting to recognize higher possibilities of oneness, mutual reverence and love. We are just awakening. Yes, there is so much of conflict and living with awareness has become a kind of urgent necessity. I am hopeful that we shall emerge out of this. Peace and Truth will prevail.
I am trying to reach a higher state of being, a greater state of consciousness, almost like a moth that is drawn to a light in a world it perceives as dark. That darkness seems so vast and impenetrable. I will sacrifice myself to gain understanding and wisdom so that I may help others. I cannot give what I do not possess. I need to be before I can give. I need power before I have the power to do good.
More power to you
I personally completely love my boyfriend sooo much and consequently he is indeed wonderful for myself. I adore pretty much everything dealing with him. The only problem though, is he is friends with far too many young women and I don’t like realizing that he could be speaking with numerous young ladies besides me. I hate being jealous. I’m trying to just ignore the jealousy but I can’t. Please help me out. Thanks.
Flor, you may find these two blog posts helpful
http://jnanagni.com/2008/10/is-love-a-cause-of-pain/
http://jnanagni.com/2008/11/admiration-vs-possessiveness/
Hiee Srini…..!!! Just like Flor e1 m dealin wit this problem of jealousy, but my case is quite diffrent.. M a Bisexual, badly in love wit a person, who is a straight guy… i had physical relations wt him since last 4 years. Being a straight guy he had been enjoyin it, n nw he is in love wt another girl. n he stopped doin sex wt me. He too loves me but he says tht he loves me as a friend. bt whnevr he is wt her i dnt comfortable. i realy dnt knw wat to to in such a situation… i get badly hurt whn thy r 2gethr… we tried to get seprated many a times bt some how again cum close….plz help me guyzz!!!!
I think these negative things are inbilt problems of human beings.just think, you don’t know the source of origin of these negative thought .so how can you destroy them .whenever they captured you mind your body and mind become slave for them .so you forget that you are master, not servant .whenever these negativethought captures you ;just do one thing ..do nothing actively to remove these negative